Shall we keep showering privileges on women in our culture?  I believe the privilege for women is based on male belief that women are the "weaker sex" and inferior.  

  According to ABC News, a guy put his foot down against discrimination at a New York night club.  Roy Den Hollander, a New York lawyer, said "Ladies' Night drinks and admission specials are unconstitutional" because he was treated as a second-class citizen. Such lawsuits, beginning in 1972 when a man sued the Yankees for charging him twice what the wife cost to enter the ballpark, are generally won.

    This is only one of thousands of privileges for women, from protection from combat to easier jobs like librarian and receptionist.  If you look up "equality" in the "Femspeak Dictionary," you will find the word "privilege."      

   Dr. Phil took the words right out of my mouth.  On his show December 4, 2007, he described the man and husband as "provider, protector, leader, teacher." Whatever happened to those proclamations of equality?

Dr. Phil must have read a few history books and must have dealt with the confusion of women in relationships. He finally saw the light.

   Notice how sexism is widely accepted if the speaker is popular!  While many want to challenge me for the same viewpoint, no one challenged him, or found fault. 

It shows that people judge not by content, but by context.  It's not the value or truth of the idea, but the status of the person who presents it.   

  Dr. Phil, I welcome you to the enlightened world.  What took you so long to get here?     

Why do women hook up with rapists (serial killer Ted Bundy had a girlfriend DURING his killing frenzy), genocidists (Adolf Hitler had a mistress and wife DURING his "final solution"), misogynists (Phil Spector has a supportive wife)?

The most recent in the line of stand-by-your-man wives is RACHELLE SPECTOR. Her husband, record phenom PHIL SPECTOR, who had said in 2003, when Lana Clarkson was in a blood pool in his house, "I think I killed somebody," barely escaped conviction by a hung jury September 25. Part of the trial evidence were six women who testified that over the last 30 years he had brandished a gun, or held them at gunpoint in his mansion, in one case to commit rape.

RACHELLE "fell in love" with him after knowing a woman, Lana Clarkson, had been found dead in his house, and knowing that he was the accused. Let us not to the marriage of true minds admit crimes. They married a year ago. RACHELLE, about 30 years younger and a gold digger, said three weeks ago that PHIL SPECTOR is a "wonderful, nice, kind, caring, gentleman." She read it from a script! She had to remember to say "wonderful." As "celebration" for the mistrial, RACHELLE rubbed her pelvis up and down his leg like a dog in heat in front of their mansion. They were waving at the papparazzi. Oh my. Do sexual arousal and murder mix?

Why does a woman, with thirty or forty years of knowledge about good and bad men, cling to a killer? I'm advising finding non-murderers as partners for women. Is that too controversial?

For RACHELLE, listen. It is wonderful to fall in love, but it is poisonous to love a villain.

I was not able to send a message in response to Melissa, but I do include the text. Her points were that women do ask men out; women are police officers; women do run businesses. None of this is in dispute. But what are the percentages? If women are 3% of the carpenters, does that look equal? But we can certainly find a female carpenter and say, "See, women are equal!"

I include the letter to Melissa.

You have thought a lot about the issue. We are constantly bombarded with propaganda about women and men, and our personal lives cross lines with the other gender hundreds of times a time. Some men and women, so I've heard, make legal pacts to stay together for a lifetime. Have you heard of the custom?
I thought I included statistics from Helen Fisher.

"Women are 95 percent of childcare and kindergarten teachers, nurses, secretaries, dieticians, dressmakers, bookkeepers, bank tellers, housekeepers, information clerks, and physical therapists.

"Men still do 95 percent of the manual labor (as if the above wasn’t manual labor) such as garbage collection, loading machine operators, well drillers, roofers, plasterers, bricklayers. Men are 96 percent of the car mechanics and 97 percent of carpenters, construction workers, and truckdrivers. Men are still the protectors (97 percent of firepeople, 90 percent of police). HELEN FISHER FIRST SEX

Of course, if men are 90% of police, then 10% are females. We can always find exceptions, but exceptions prove the rule. If any of Helen Fisher facts are wrong, let me know. The rest are just anecdotals, often used to promote a belief rather than to search for truth.

If you want an anecdotal, a woman who worked with me for TWO YEARS never asked me out and never mentioned her interest. Only after she left did someone tell me she wanted SO MUCH to go out with me, but I never ASKED. This is a woman who graduated from Harvard, and was on the NBC TODAY show, but she didn't have the honesty to ask me out! And the ratio, according to Warren Farrell, is 1 of 10 times a woman asks a man out first. So my anecdotal case SUPPORTS the statistics, rather than pretends the statistics are really questionable surveys.

As far as kids on the playground being teased, it is reprehensible, but overall, boys are suffering far more than girls, from birth to death. One example was the case of Carla Faye Tucker in Texas, on death row. The Pope intervened on her behalf, the first execution of a WOMAN in 130 years in Texas. Do you know how many men were executed in those years, with no appeal from the Pope?

Women are so privileged, and yet so arrogant. It's stunning that the privileged group complains the loudest! Yes, there is gender bias: heavily against men, partially against women.

While TALKING the big game of "equality," do women ACT inferior? Is the attitude, "I am woman, hear me roar," all pre-game show and no go?

1. Do women ask men out as often as men ask women out? No, because women feel inferior.

2. Do women approach men before being introduced as often as men approach women? No, because women feel inferior.

3. Do women pay for both persons on the date as often as men? No, because women feel inferior. According to Warren Farrell, the author, women pay for the meal on a date 10% of the time.

4. Do women offer to care for and to support financially the husband for the rest of his life? No, because man runs the show. As Esther Vilar said in her book, MANIPULATED MAN, "A woman supporting an able-bodied man is virtually unknown."

5. Do women pave the roads, lay the roofs, build the bridges, repair the cars? No, because this involves hard, outdoor work, and women huddle in the protected professions like librarian, teacher, accountant, real estate agent.

So where did the inane myth that "women are equal" come from? It is a way to get women working more in culture. Men pumped up their vanity to get them to work harder and longer.

A MYTH (big lie for social purposes) is used to control people's behavior. TRUTH has the opposite effect. It frees people.

Who stood to benefit from Feminism? The capitalists, the corporations, the business owners, the real estate sellers all salivated at two persons in a marriage working and prices rising. It was not for women. It was for profit. Women fell for it, of course, as they wanted to "please" the culture, the male culture.

But women are starting to figure it out. Job, marriage, children are three jobs and three stresses. As one woman on Oprah said, "I felt pulled THREE ways--my employer, my husband, my child." The PAIN of their vanity--"I can have it all!"--finally woke women up.

What goes up must come down. Spinning wheel has got to go round. 66% of working moms want to stay at home, and would quit if they could, according to the unquestioned authority, Oprah.

What happened to that peppery, fiery Women's Movement? "I am woman, hear me roar!" I am woman. Hear me nurse. Now women are back to barefoot and pregnant, if they ever left. On a woman's bedroom dresser is the clock, the biological clock, ticking.

Let's omit Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, and Britney Spears, pretty faces in all the wrong places, from the headlines for a moment.

How would you rate these three women: Roz Savage, who rowed across the Atlantic Ocean; Katie Morgan, porn success; Danica MacKellar, actress and mathematician who wrote a book to interest teen girls in math?

I would rate Roz Savage first, even as she is waiting in San Francisco to row across the Pacific Ocean. Her feat was colossal, and her influence on physical fitness for teens and others would be powerful. Second, I would rate Danica MacKellar, who graduated summa cum laude from University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA) in math. Her book may interest teen girls to achieve in math. Teen girls fall precipitously in math scores in middle school in order to be "cute" and "cool" and "pretty." Are you listening Paris?

A distant third is Katie Morgan, who claims a 165 IQ, but believes her talent lies in lips, both sets, and in all the orifices on the human body. Katie should go rowing with Roz, and figuring out polynomials with Danica.

What was your rating?

In 2003, Scott Shanahan in Defiance, Iowa, in order to get all his wife's money, planned to kill her, so he enlisted his daughter to kill her mother, telling her that she would get off as a juvenile. All that money would to daughter and father. If you are thinking that this is repugnant, we're on the same page.

After the daughter killed the mother with a shotgun, the body was left in the bedroom. The plan to dispose of the body was not to dispose of the body. They let it rot in the bedroom for a year! If you're thinking this is gruesome, we're on the same page.

Do you explain this as male tendency to violence, as male domination of the female, as male greed? Is it male nature to do violence? How do you explain it? Before you read on, come to a conclusion.



After you have explained it to yourself--often with prejudice about males, that they are NATURALLY aggressive, controlling, violent--consider this: it was Dixie Shanahan, not Scott, who did all these things. It was a WOMAN who enlisted the daughter to kill the father. It was a WOMAN who conspired to kill for his money. It was a WOMAN who let her husband's body rot in the bedroom for a year, until police got a search warrant. It was a WOMAN convicted of this crime.

Of course--wasn't this predictable?--her defense was that the husband had abused her. She appealed to that deep prejudice that males are naturally violent. In this case, batting eyelashes and feigning the "oppressed" woman was discarded by the jury. The rotting body made a rotten case for her. She was convicted.

Now, what is your conclusion?

Oops! They drank too much again. Nicole Ritchey is in court now on her drunk driving. She's pregnant, but what does she care about the life of another? Nicole's favorite celebrity is Nicole. She was sentenced to four days in jail. "You're lucky no one was killed," said the judge because she drove the wrong way. Gee, maybe that's the direction of her life. If someone was killed, Nicole might have gotten two weeks in jail. We're cracking down on spoiled little girls!

Paris Hilton served her time and now they serve her drinks at her mansion. Is she 26 years old or 14? It's hard for me to tell. As Betty Friedan said, "Society doesn't allow women to grow up." However, ladies, I will. Please exit your teenage years.

Lindsay Lohan, with that sense of "entitlement" that our culture affords to females and celebrities (she's two for two), yelled, "I won't get in trouble. I'm a f----- celebrity!" This is after she drove drunk with drugs at high speeds on Pacific Coast Highway in Malibu, California.

Britney Spears tore up $20,000 worth of dresses that belonged to OK magazine. The princess was displeased because she looked like an out-patient from a ward of schizos. Is she?

Wow, maybe giving women special privileges and protections in culture has just made them irresponsible. Do you think?

I think Nicole, Paris, Lindsay, Britney would look their best in orange jump suits cleaning up trash by the highways. At least they would be doing something for others--a novelty for them.

NIKKI GIOVANNI, a poet who actually had the Virginia Tech shooter as a student in her class months before the madman's killing of several students, wrote a concise and sharp poem, not related to the incident, about men and women, ever the subject of this blog.



THE DRUM

daddy says the world is
a drum tight and hard
and I told him
I'm gonna beat
out my own rhythm



Maybe I still don't understand the distance between a woman and a man. Tell me how far it is. Ladies, there's more to life than what's between your hips. Your devotion to emotion just brings commotion. Be independent, strong and free!